The deaths of Princess Diana, Pope John Paul, Coretta Scott King, JFK, Mother Teresa, Elvis Presley and many others have produced a very real phenomenon called mass grieving. From the televised memorial services, to the outpouring of fans it is clear that popular figures that pass away have an effect on people everywhere. Dealing with mass grieving sometimes takes us by surprise, and that may be where it hurts the most. Therapists have studied it and can now offer ways to deal with this grief, and why celebrities, although not personally in our lives, affect us within life and when they pass on.
There are several reasons why the passing of celebrities and prominent figures tend to affect people. No, you may not have known Mother Teresa personally, but through mass media and constantly hearing and learning about her, you may have felt a connection. As a way to help deal with the loss, ask yourself questions like: who Am I?, who was this person in my life?, and who am I now without this person? Ask where the feelings of loss are coming from and whether or not they are feelings from another area in your life. You may actually be grieving a more personal loss, and just projecting those feelings on to a “safer” public figure. Most of the time there is something in a celebrity’s death that relates to your life. Find that issue and talk about it with others, which can create long, passionate relationships with others. Attending memorial services and paying your respects may also be an idea to consider. Mass grievances have a way of pulling strangers together.
Living in Manhattan, on September 11th, 2001, I saw the power of mass grieving first hand. With loss and shock and fear all around us, we comforted each other in a way that I have never seen before or since. Complete strangers offering support to one another with a hug. It truly was beautiful thing amongst so many horrors that day.
We are affected deeply by the world around us, and even by the people who are only in our lives peripherally. Although sometimes it is dismissed by those who don’t understand, it is a healthy and valid response to a tragedy, even one that does not directly touch our lives. In those times of loss and pain, take the time that you need, and the comfort and support of those around you.
