After your child has passed there are ways to allow for their memory to live on. Often times being sad and feeling pity and sorrow take over but there is a way to celebrate the life of your lost angel. One of the popular ways to reach out to another person who is going through similar pains and to celebrate the life of your loved one is through Angelversaries. Yes, celebrate, as opposed to commiserate! Celebrating with others and sharing your experience and grievances is one of the most positive things you can do to help with healing, and to enjoy the memory of your loved one. Angelversaries are a way to celebrate the anniversary of a child’s passing. It is a way for parents to connect to one another, share, and continue to be proud of their little angels.
Donna Medeiros is one of the most helpful people on the Angelversaries forum. She is also the woman who took an idea from the children’s forum, which has led to a wonderful community of healing. Donna lists the Angelversaries every month in the parents forum where it has become popular and has helped parents to discuss their woes and share their child’s memory. What inspired Donna was simple- “I know what it feels like when someone (a complete stranger) just randomly stopped and lit a candle for my mom, so I thought I want to offer this comfort to others and make it easy for them to just click the name.” As someone who has experienced loss, Donna has found comfort in the consoling of a visitor, which is exactly what the Angelversaries do for other parents. Give them support, and allow them to share stories and smile about the life of their loved one. Comparing experiences and listening to one another are all a part of the Angelversaries.
The celebration of life helps to shed light on all the angels, so that they are noticed and acknowledged. In this way, every person receives some type of support, or as Donna states “[it is] our channel of therapy for grief.” Finding comfort in helping others Donna continues to believe in the goodness of Angelversaries. It has become quite popular because loved ones are always remembered. The most special part of Angelversaries is perhaps the bond that the parents build with one another. The Angelversaries/Birthday posts have allowed people like Donna to make friends and realize connections that may have not been an option.
Together with Angelversaries, parents build, remember and honor their children with conversations, being there for one another, sharing stories, photos, and memories. With just a few minutes you can visit the forum and add your comments. Just by looking through the forum and viewing the posts it is evident that a community has been built for parents to rely on one another.
